Skip to main content

Everything you need to know about planning a virtual Bat or Bar Mitzvah

Things have certainly changed this year, but just because you can’t host large in-person gatherings, that doesn’t mean you should skip the celebrations of life’s monumental moments. Hosting a virtual event while adhering to social distancing guidelines is a great option for your child’s bar or bat mitzvah, allowing you to safely celebrate with family and friends, around the country or around the world.

The silver lining of a virtual bar or bat mitzvah party means you don’t need to cut your guest list down, and everyone you love has the ability to join in, no matter where they live. If you think virtual bar mitzvah planning is daunting, we’re here to help you plan the best online event with these great tips!

Related Videos

Technology rules

Although Zoom is the most popular virtual conferencing site, you can set your virtual event up through Google Meet, Microsoft Teams, FaceTime, or other services. Since you don’t want to have any technical disruptions during the event, check the internet signal strength in the room you’re hosting the event. WiFi boosters you can purchase can help put your mind at ease against service disruption. 

Email clear instructions to guests in advance of the virtual bat or bar mitzvah party detailing how the Zoom event will work, including the conference provider’s name and how to download the app. Send out a reminder email the night before the event. Note: If you do virtual invitations through a site such as, they will manage your guest list and RSVPs and automatically send out reminder emails. 

Set the stage

Decide on a theme and ask your guests to participate by dressing up or decorating their space in your pre-determined color scheme or party theme. Seeing everyone participating with colorful balloons, homemade signs, decorations, and color-coordinated outfits will make the event so much more special for the guest of honor. 

Lighting and audio

You want everyone to be able to see the event unfold, so make sure that lighting is in front of you and your family, not behind. You may also wish to consider using a plug-in speaker to ensure your guests can hear the ceremony clearly. Give the bar or bat the option of having their tutor or clergy member discreetly available via earbuds for added support during the big event.

Assign virtual hosting duties to a friend

Since you want to concentrate on enjoying every moment of this special day, ask a friend or family member to act as the official host of the call. Want to hold on to the memory forever? Zoom offers a record default “gallery view” that will show up to 25 people at a single time. Have your meeting host record the service from their home, ensuring they scroll through the additional screens to capture video memories of every attendee. 

Don’t forget the readings

Email a PDF or word document of the readings to all guests ahead of time so they can follow along, and print out a copy for the rabbi in case he is unable to bring a Torah to the service. 

Afterparty ideas

Invite your guests to stay on after the reading for a virtual toast and other fun festivities in honor of the new bar or bat mitzvah!

  • Mail out mitzvah favors with a copy of the program and readings, a personalized yarmulke, special candy and treats, and even challah, kosher wine, and grape juice, plus a personalized greeting thanking the guests for being a part of such a special day.
    Had party favors, printed invites, and other items already purchased before the pandemic shut things down? Make them a part of your thank-you correspondence by including the invitation, a video of the Torah reading, photos and videos of the event, and whatever party favors or special treats that were part of the planned in-person event. Put everything together in a gift box along with a thank you note, and you’ve found a way to keep the fun and magic going a little bit longer.
  • Organize a drive-by parade of local friends and family for an in-person (but socially distanced) congratulatory greeting. 
  • Explore the idea of virtual games. There are virtual game apps and dozens of virtual party game ideas you can find via google—everything from word games, charades, trivia, virtual painting, and murder mystery games. Choose a few for a variety of age groups to keep everyone engaged. 

Canceling your in-person bat or bar mitzvah is certainly not ideal, but with a little planning and creativity, you can make the most of hosting a virtual bar or bat mitzvah your guests will be certain to remember. 

Editors' Recommendations

LG thinks it made an indoor smart garden you’ll actually care about
lg smart gardening appliance tiiun lifestyle 01

Green living isn’t just a marketing phrase — from design that brings the outdoors in to electric vehicles, solar roofs, and sustainable, healthy food choices, this concept is an everyday part of our lives. And while many people have taken to cultivating a vegetable garden in their yard or herbs on their windowsill as part of this trend, winter weather and apartment living both make that a little more difficult. Well, LG thinks it has the solution for you: an indoor smart garden that’s about the same size as a mini-fridge.

What is tiiun?
Revealed at CES 2022 (and a CES 2022 Innovation Award winner), LG’s appropriately named tiiun (it means “sprout” in Korean) is a freestanding indoor gardening appliance that can host vegetables, herbs, and even flowers if you’re looking for a colorful way to spruce up your home.

Read more
Decorating for New Year’s Eve on a budget: What you need to know
People celebrating New Year's Eve in living room.

New Year’s Eve is a night for celebrations with friends and family, but your party doesn’t have to be expensive to strike the right tone. If you’re hosting a New Year’s Eve bash and don’t want to break the bank doing so, don’t worry. Decorating for New Year’s Eve on a budget is possible, and we have some great ideas for you -- ideas that go beyond the typical 2022 glasses, hats, and signs. And if you’re into arts and crafts, we have some excellent ideas to DIY that can be fun for the whole family.
Tack art
Using a black foam board to create festive tack art is an inexpensive way to create a decorative piece and use your imagination. All you need are tacks, a pencil, foam board, and an idea (or print out someone else’s design).

Champagne glasses, fireworks, or simply the words Happy New Year 2022 will look great as a backdrop on your mantel, buffet table, an easel stand, or behind your bar. Simply trace your design onto the foam board (making a slight indent is the best way to approach this), and start pushing the tacks into the board along the indentation.

Read more
Is a robot vacuum really worth spending $500?
woman using phone to control robot vacuum

If you have a busy schedule or you just hate cleaning, a robot vacuum certainly sounds like a dream; a machine that does the work for you and enables you to relax and focus on other things is definitely something we all could use. But are these vacuums truly effective? And are they worth the cost?

How convenient are robot vacuums?
A robot vacuum can help you avoid the hassle of traditional vacuuming. You simply program the robot vacuum to clean on specific days and at specific times, and then it does the work for you.

Read more